Mualimah Nasim Walji Pirmohamed

Islam is a holistic package and there's absolutely no discrimination by Allah swt to both the genders. it is wajib upon the husband to fulfill the rights of his wife and vice versa. This subject needs independent discussions and needs time to share these thoughts and I can't discuss all here. A woman only needs to seek permission from her husband just for the sake of her own protection if she goes out so that husband is aware of her know abouts. There is a deeper philosophy in this matter. There's no discrimination.

Husband is not considered next to God. Basically Islam came to provide safety and protection for wives. So I am not sure why he wouldn't allow you to leave the house for genuine reasons.

Yes you can if it's all halal videos

Yes there needs to be some etiquette and protocol to take steps in reference to asking for someone in marriage

In this month of Rajab, Istighfaar is best and have faith in Allah. Give sadaqa and keep adhan loudly in the house during namaz times

There's nothing wrong with marrying someone who lives abroad. The criteria of marriage is honesty, trustworthy, good akhlaq, taqwa and as long as you have done your best to know the person you are marrying.

I can assist you in terms of mentoring on Marriage. Also there are many videos on Marriage online and books with ref to this topic. Also have faith and Tawwakul in Allah swt. Financial independence is important however Allah swt is the provider. You can marry him provided your parents are happy. Need to work on your Imaan.

You cannot abort the child. Was your relationship with him Halaal? If not, Is the guy ready to marry you? Unfortunately you cannot abort the child under any circumstances. Please speak to your mum about this. Also speak to the therapist here. You need to tell your mum about this and explain how you feel. is it possible to give the child after birth for adoption?

Pease do everything to salvage this situation. Try and seek mediation from your local scholar. Please continue to communicate with him. Pray for guidance and solution. Recite Ziyarah Ashura for 40 days.

You need to seek professional help

You can revive this relationship with your son with lots of love and positive communication with your son. Its important you keep the communications channels open and pray for them. Please turn back to Duas from Ahlulbayt a.s. Hadithul Kisa will help you

Modesty, Chastity and Hayaa of a woman is Wajib

Please try and repent a genuine repentance and seek forgiveness from the heart. Also you would need to evaluate your life and your personal goals for your spiritual growth. Adultery and committing these sins is indeed a very grave sin. Please try and rethink of your life and how you can go back to Allah swt. Please keep yourself busy with religious deeds and study more on Islam. Have good noble friends who will remind you of Allah swt. Seek help from religious scholars and listen to lectures that will help you and guide you. Please do not indulge in this sin. It will kill you internally.

Yes, that's OK but as long as they are not too long

Please let go and don't regret blocking him. It's ok. InshaAllah you will find a better person in life.

I think you need to focus on your relationship with Allah swt. Build this relationship with Him. I'm really sorry about your marriage breakups. Try and get closer to Allah and seek His guidance. Do not blame yourself for all that has happened. Maybe it has made you reflect on your life.

Please you need to do istighfaar and seek some spiritual counselling

Its OK for both men and women to visit our beloved Bibi Zahra s.a for her Ziyarah. she is the Sayyidatu Nisa Al Alameen.

Talking about hell is what we create for ourselves and Allah's doors of mercy and Forgiveness are wide open. There's no confusion, we are creating our own hell and heaven from moment to moment. Allah is a Merciful Rabb. Its us who go astray from His guidance

من عرف نفسه فقد عرف ربه

The above hadith proves Irfan through the Holy Prophet saww. There is no Islam without Marifah of Allah swt

Please try and do istighfar and tawbah genuinely for 40 days. Recite Ziyārat Ashura as well. Start small steps and repentance is a door to seeking Allah swt. You need to feel and believe in God and feel His presence. spiritual refinement is also needed

She can start the amaals and if it is to do for 40 days, she can continue after her periods. For further reference please kindly refer to the Ahkaam book of your Marja Taqleed.

Yes, we need to obey our parents but that doesn't mean that you cannot give your opinions, and put your interests forward to them on how you think of marriage and the spouse you are looking for. We need to talk to our parents in a way that they would respect our views as daughters / sons. So please do try and rationalise with your parents and communicate effectively with them. Even if you are middle class, there's no class system in the eyes of Allah swt.

You are trying your best to go for Ziyarah and it's not because you are sinning that you can't go. Maybe you need to plan in such a way that your exams are not on the way. Best wishes. pray to Allah inshaAllah He will soon make it to reality for you to go. Allah is so Merciful and we need to believe in His mercy and His love. Please never think negative of our grand masters

Please recite Quran frequently for all your answers and Duas from Ahlulbayt to help you get through to your prayers being fulfilled. Also it requires us to be God conscious

You just need to wash your hands to make it paak. You can use soap to cleanse the oil out too.

Yes it is fine inshaAllah. There is no problem

It is highly recommended to bring gifts according to the Holy Prophet saww. Islam is a beautiful religion. Gift can be as beautiful as a rose. Maybe you can talk about the beauty of Holy Prophet saww and his characteristics on how loving and kind he was when he visited people. We cannot judge him by saying he's stingy so you may need to go out shopping for groceries and find out more how he deals with buying and making payments. Use your best akhlaq as examples

Please seek counsel from anyone who is wise in your elders. Can you speak to a scholar in your community? Also you need to really know the intention behind marriage. Why are you getting married to him? is it for Allah swt pleasure or for your own desires? You also need to break out from the cultural norms that are opposite to Islam. I'm sorry I cannot advise more than this as you need to ponder on the essence of marriage. Take examples from Holy Prophet saww and his family. Take counsel, think about everything, than take Istakhara if need be.

You need to observe proper Hijab. putting makeup isn't acceptable if it's too obvious on your face.

What I would suggest is to speak to a male scholar in regards to your question and deep concerns. What I can say is yes attraction is very important and beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. This physical beauty will fade away soon. What will remain is the soul beauty and being soul mates in marriage. You definitely need to go for therapy and also couple counselling. The influence of online world is a disease that has destroyed families and we need to be weary of the consequences in a marriage relationship. I would recommend that you speak to a therapist who can help you heal and also a spiritual guide to help you with protecting your imaan and your marriage. There needs to be empathy in a marriage relationship and imagine if you put your shoes in her place. Just think about it.

You will need to go through a proper channel of mediation and through a religious scholar. Please kindly contact a scholar to facilitate this process if things are not working out

For a serious intention in seeking a spouse for marriage, you can chat with someone you think that you would like to consider partnership in marriage. According to our Shariah, you can speak to the potential candidate but you need to be weary of remaining modest at all times and preserving your chastity.

Please kindly seek genuine forgiveness and you give charity on the persons behalf

It depends on your menstruation cycle. If you get haydh for 8 days than yes you will need to perform ghusl of Haydh and then you can have initimacy

Please do istighfaar with your heart and consciously. Give sadaqa and be mindful of your income and your akhlaq.

What I would humbly suggest is to protect his relationship with his family and do ehsaan, show them love and best of akhlaq instead of revealing the truth for now

The product will be become a barrier for your wudhu and Ghusl

Ignore the doubts

No

She would need to redo the ghusle Haydh if it is Haydh

No it is not haram

Abortion isnt allowed unless theres a very detrimental reason and life and death situation. Even then you need to refer to your Marja Taqleed

Yes you can pray whilst sitting as long as your health is at risk

Please check with your doctor, recite Hadithul kisaa as well and give sadaqa of animal

Yes if its after gap of 10 complete days. You do your ghusl the day you finish haydh and then count from there on for 10 days

Please if you can recite Jowshan kabeer on water and apply it on your eyes, eat carrots or carrot juice, visit your optician

The most powerful dua is Salawat for all hajaats and also Istighfaar

If you have a friend or a neighbour who can look after the pet for the time your parents visit you would be a good idea

As long as your dress fulfills the requirements of the shariah law of modesty and hijab that includes loose clothing, long sleeves, covering all the body parts including the head and chest, it is fine. As long as the dress isnt attractive and provocative

Unfortunately you cant

As per the Medical guidelines and from the Marja we need to adhere to the medical science protocols and government guidelines and take the vaccine after consulting with your doctor

You can recite Tasbeeh during Haydh, theres no problem

This is a huge topic. I dont think I would be able to answer in few words.

She provided welfare support to the women in Medinah. She was politically very active in defending the wilayah of Ameerul Momineen a.s.

Books to read: Fatima is Fatima, Fatima the Gracious

I will need to do some research on this hadith. As long as you are not using volumiszing schrungies for intention of beauty and have a genuine reason of avoiding headaches than it should be fine.

I think that parents need to support their children in their choices of career path and give them courage. It's their life that they wish to evolve and reach their fullness. Please think about this and pray for your daughter

You need to do ghusl and pray salaah

Yes you can do wudhu during Adhan time

There are many roles and duties for a woman waiting for her Imam ajfs. One of the most important duty is to know your Imam and what he expects from you. This can be attained through Taqwa and Godconsciousness.
Read books on the 12th Imam as and listen to lectures that will inspire you to do more for Allah and His final Hujjat

Eye lash extension which is natural and planted inside the skin and does not prevent water from reaching the skin, is allowed and there would be no problem in it but if it is planted in such a way that it is glued permanently to the eye lid or the eye lashes, it is not permissible.
As for the lash extension of the second type in which the eyelash extension is glued to the eye lashes and which remain there for two or three weeks, it definitely forms a barrier and it should be removed. It is not permissible to keep it during wudhu and ghusl. And if a woman has glued such eyelashes, she must remove it as soon as and when she wants to perform wudhu or ghusl. And if it is not possible to remove it, she must perform wudhu and ghusl by way of jabira until it is possible to remove it. And if she does not remove it intentionally, wudhu and ghuls performed by way jabira would also be void.

Marriage is a very sacred institiition and you need to discuss these fears openly with the man you are thinking of marrying. It is a lifetime decision to make so you need to be 100% sure about the man's social habits and also if his dads influence will impact him negatively. Please try and do some more research before plunging into this matter

These questions require more 1 to 1 sessions on the phone so that you are able to gain the maximum as its a pot of mentoring required. We need to pray for a grateful heart and also you can ask for a compatible spouse who is your company in the spiritual journey

Please kindly wean your son of from your milk. There is wisdom in the Quranic message with reference to time period on breastfeeding milk

As long as the intention is to get married to the person, then you can discuss issues relating to your future etc.
Best way is to give a contract of Mutah recited with parents aporoval so you can discuss things more fluidly.

You need to talk about the event of kerbala according to your childs ability to understand as to why you mourn over Imam Husayn as

You need to discuss the social aspects and how it would impact your family structure and also the concept of maintaining modesty of your husband's cousin at all times during her stay. You are not obligated to keep her according to our Shariah. It is important that you discuss this matter with rationale and have mutual understanding so not to cause any conflict in your marital relationship

Recite Ayatul kursi 12 times and do Tawwakul

You perform ghusl janabat for now and once your haydh finishes, perform ghusl haydh and ihtiyat niyyat for ghusl janabah

No you cant

You can't enter Masjid in haydh. You can recite quran but not allowed to touch the verses and reciting more than 7 verses is makruh according to some marjas. You can however do tasbihat

It is not permissible for a shia to marry a non muslim unless he converts. A sunni can marry a shia Jafari

I feel Duas and Amaals are great but you need to have a mediator to assist you in talking to your daughter. You really need to involve some elders of your family or community who are wise and God conscious in helping you to bring back your daughter on the path of Allah swt. You can do your amaals after Eisha prayers if you feel you cannot get up during tahajjud time

Yes you can, but try to avoid if possible

Henna , surma and fragrances can be applied but not going out for Na Mahrams. Henna is quite cold for the body during haydh. Also whatever you apply you need to make sure about your social Hijab

If you are sure that you didn't reach orgasms and there was no discharge than there is no need of ghusl. Incase you felt that you had reached the climax, then you need to perform ghusl of Junub

I think due to the nature of your circumstances and changes in your physical body and also breastfeeding, the kind of symptoms you have are most likely istihadha unless your circumstances change and you have the strong signs and symptoms of Haydh

Ziyarat Ashura for 40 days with wasilah of ummul baneen (as)

If you recite 2 rakaat salaat hadya to Ummul Baneen(as) and ask Allah to guide you for making the right decision

No, you don't have to perform ghusl

It is haram and a very big sin to perform in the state of heidh however you have to do two ghusl once you finish off your period; ghusl e haidh and ghusl e janabah

This is istihadha and please do the actions of Istihadha if you started bleeding after 10 days of Haydh

As much as you have lost that spiritual fervour, keep praying namaz even if your heart is not focused. Slowly but surely try and buld a very intimate relationship with Allah swt. Read some books on salaat and its secrets. Try and remain in wudhu. Do your wajibats and slowly add on the mustahabats

The first step is to be aware of one's spiritual defects and wake up from deep slumber of living in heedlessness and then returning back to Allah swt through genuine Tawbah

1) Have confidence in yourself and take a firm decision.
2) Combat these negative thoughts by reciting Audhu billahi mina-shaytani Rajeem and keep focused on your spouse that you wish to live for the rest of your life.
3) Your niyyah needs to be only for the sake of pleasing Allah swt
4) Remove these doubts and have clarity of mind

Yes you can make a dua for this legitimate purpose. There's no harm in seeking this. Recite 2 Rakat Salaat with niyyah of fulfillment of hajaat and dedicate it to Bibi Zahra a.s. InshaAllah, Your Duas will be fulfilled.

Please kindly remain in wudhu and constantly seek istighfaar and Al Istiaadhah.
Please recite Sura Al Asr for having a cool temperament

Unfortunately this a very great sin and its addictive. I have few important questions for you and want to know if you are single or married?

Best ways is to remain in wudhu and feel the presence of Allah swt in your life at all times.

Doing real and sincere Istighfaar to Allah swt.

You need to be self vigilant of your actions.

Also try and utilise your time in doing Godly works.

Try and be in the presence of people around you so you can completely stop doing this sinful act. There's a lot of darkness in the soul if one continues with this sin.

Whether you ejaculate or not, this is psychologically and spiritually very very harmful to your mind, soul.
please refrain from this completely.

Recite Quran and reflect upon the verses. Remember God is watching your actions. Divert your attention and seek positive efforts.

Seek Istiaadha and prayers from Allah swt

We just need to be supportive to one another and seek help from Allah swt. May Allah ease your tests

Please do not loose hope in Allah's mercy.
Has anything changed in your life recently in terms of your spirituality? Best way is to get some time out on reflections and pondering. Give yourself time to think and meditate atleast 10 minutes a day, focus on your breaths, silence the mind. After Salaat recite istighfar and ponder on how to return back to Allah swt. InshaAllah, Allah swt will open doors for you

Please kindly read and understand Dua Makarimul Akhlaq and dissect every noble characeritics

There is no atheism! What there is, is true ego that is denying God. Theres so much to talk about the Existence of God. Just by looking at our breaths and our own creation is enough to prove the Existence of God

You need to talk about the event of kerbala according to your childs ability to understand as to why you mourn over Imam Husayn as

Arabic is better to recite with translation

Please kindly seek medical help and recite salawat

If you recite 2 rakaat salaat hadya to Ummul Baneen as and ask Allah to guide you for making the right decision

Recite Dua Mashlool and hadithul kisa, before feeding perform wudhu

Hijaab is for both male and female in the holy quran but the way hijab is worn for women is different.
Modesty of women is more important than the mens hijab as women have been created beautifully. And woman’s attraction is deeply more sensitive due to the make up of woman’s physique

Firstly you need to clear all the debts you have.
Once you have cleared them out, you can keep a calendar for your annual khums date and give the 20% of your annual savings towards the sehme imam and sehme sadat through the wakil of your marja that you follow.

Zawaaj of Mutah is not permissible for a virgin girl unless she has consent of her father or her paternal uncle.

There are stages of connecting with Allah.
Beginning step is through knowing yourself to know Allah, through Ilm and marifah, through contemplation in Allahs signs, through the Holy Quran

Yes same applies to it in english or any other language

The Ahlulbayt are the great manifestations of Allah swt. They mirror Allahs qualities and they are the signs of God. They are not in partnership with Allah

Indeed Yes

Your question has many facets to it to answer however In marriage both husband and wife need to discuss these issues openly with amicable and joint decisions. Communication is the key in any marriage. I would advise you to have good communication with your husband on his regard and you need to educate him about the rights of a wife and silatu Rahm.
Islam does not at all show any injustices to any gender and it is a very balanced deen.
I think you need to use your power of communication to ensure that he respects your views and opinion. You too have a God given right and you need to use it wisely.
Talk to him and share your concerns. I’m sure he will come round it and will value your opinion.

Please read the book womans right in Islam by Ayatullah Murtaza Mutahari

Yes you can if it's under our shariah parameters

Theres no website as such to read the articles on the above questions.
As long as you don't see anything visual or read anything that would arouse your sexual feelings

To be anxious is somehow quite common. however to combat anxiety, it is highly recommended to recite Salawat upon the Holy prophet Mohamed saw and his pristine pure family.
You also need to find out the root cause of this anxious feeling or being nervous infront of people. what is the cause? why is there nervousness?
Meditation also helps one to combat this anxiety. 10 minutes before your wajib salaat, just be mindful and meditate, feel your breath, and you will see the difference.

The white discharge is not najis if its on regular basis and not after having sexual intercourse and having an orgasm. Otherwise its tahir

No theres no ghusl needed unless you have had sexual intercourse with your husband and released orgasm

Yes the nafila of dhohr and asr is just like the ritual Salaat that we pray wajib everyday. The timings for dhuhr and asr is before the actual dhuhr and asr salaat

The Divorce has to be reread and will be proceeded by the Eddah period after pronunciation of Talaq Al Khula. Divorce cannot be recited if one is in her monthly periods.

According to what you have mentioned, if there is a necessity to be examined by a gynecologist, it is permissible to get the test done.
As long as you have asked for a 2nd opinion from specialists than you are allowed to go for the test for further investigation.

This is a very important question and needs a lot of thought to it. You would need a family counsellor or a mediator to help you start afresh through positive communication reevaluate your priorities in life and your marriage. how old is your marriage?

Perhaps you would need to get your local religious scholar involved for mediating. X years of marriage is still very fresh and you really need to understand his psyche and begin to work own your positive communication skills with your husband.
at this point I can only suggest:
1. Praying for your marriage to blossom
2. To be God conscious at all times.
3. Positive communication skills.
4. Trust in God

You need to fill the huge gaps in between the mussalleen and try to be shoulder to shoulder. showing unity and solidarity in humility

If it is very necessary for a male doctor to examine you, then medically he can. as long as he doesn't come in contact with your body, and uses the medical tools to examine you and does not see your private parts .
this is if you really need to be seen by a male specialist

Do sincere istighfar.
Allah is ever so Merciful

Best way to control this anger bouts is through dhikr of salawat and remaining in wudhu. but one needs to have faith in this. also to go through self reflection and self introspection as to why one is getting angry

I fully empathise with you. I also understand that you go through depression and anger outbursts.
However, your mother is your mother no matter what.You still need to respect her. You cannot stop your relationship with your mother.
Find out why she does what she does and what makes you angry.
Islam gives a very high regard for noble etiquettes and you need good communication. Try and find someone who con mediate between the two of you.
Pray to Allah to help you and your mother make your mother happy and find out the root cause of all this.