When we go out he buys me stuff to drink etc. But as he has been here he has not offered to pay when we have been grocery shopping. However he did buy my mom a perfume on her bday. I know these examples might be very cultural but i really need advice as I have no experience in life. His dad is going to pay for the wedding and whatever gifts we get from the grooms side (money) his dad qill get it. My mom says it is supposed to be for us. She thinks it sounds like his parents control him alot. I’m so confused and now she says she is concerned for me mainly because of his family. I feel like my heart aches when i think about us not getting married and it makes me want to cry but on the other hand I’m so confused.